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43 Days Sober – Addiction is a bully. Recovery is fighting back.

Posted by Sober Tony on March 29, 2017 8 Comments

I hate bullies.

Especially when they hurt me and my family. Today, I’m connecting the dots and calling out alcohol for being a bully in my life.

Reading about bullying reminded me of life before sobriety.

Some signs that may point to a bullying problem are:

  • Unexplainable injuries
  • Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry
  • Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
  • Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating.
  • Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
  • Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
  • Feelings of helplessness or decreased self-esteem
  • Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicide

Alcohol was kicking my ass and stealing my lunch.

The bully situation is marked by an imbalance of power and the repeated harmful interactions. That exactly describes my life under the influence.

How did addiction treat you? Do you recognize these typical bully behaviors:

  • Verbal bullying (Teasing, Name-calling, Taunting)
  • Social bullying (Leaving someone out, Embarrassing in public)
  • Physical bullying (Spitting, Tripping, Breaking things, Making rude hand gestures)

It doesn’t take too much imagination to see how addiction was a bully in my life. More correctly, after alcohol hacked my brain I became a bully to myself.

Drunk Tony was always beating Sober Tony’s down.

In recovery, I’m fighting back. Without a doubt I know that alcohol is not my friend.

Leave a comment to share your experience.

* Responsible blogger footnote: I don’t intend to diminish the real problem of peer bullying among children. I’m simply using this well-known issue as an analogy of my self-destructive behavior as an addict.

** If you’re in the mood, you can watch the whole Christmas Story fight scene below. 

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About Sober Tony

Tony is the founder and editor of Daily Recovery Club. He is a widely respected authority (in his own mind). He's just trying to live a little longer and a lot stronger.

This blog is not professional or medical advice, rather a support community for others suffering from alcoholism. We are all experts on failure, starting over, and trying to laugh at the absurdity of it all. Find him on Twitter @soberTony

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Comments

  1. asobermiracle says

    March 30, 2017 at 7:02 am

    I love this!! I am going to repost to my blog. It’s such an empowering way to view alcohol.
    xoxo

    Reply
    • Sober Tony says

      March 30, 2017 at 3:33 pm

      Thanks so much for the encouragement and sharing it on your blog. Let’s fight this bully together!

      Reply
  2. Untipsyteacher says

    March 30, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    Addiction is a bully.
    It wanted what it wanted and didn’t care who it harmed.
    I am SO glad I am in recovery today.
    I find that Wendy in recovery stronger than she thought!
    xo
    Wendy

    Reply
    • Sober Tony says

      March 30, 2017 at 3:33 pm

      YES – That’s the best part of fighting back, to discover that I am not the helpless person I imagined. I’m with you Wendy, we can beat this bully.

      Reply
  3. reallifeusblog says

    April 3, 2017 at 10:46 pm

    Wonderful analogy. Keep fighting my friend!

    Reply
  4. Abbie says

    May 2, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    What a great analogy! As a woman in long-term​ recovery, having been bullied as recently as 3 years ago (I didn’t even realize that was what it was, cos WHO bullies others as AN ADULT?!?), I subscribe to the same idea re: addiction. I’d just never put it into words before, but I HAVE said that I wasn’t gonna let that ______ take ANYTHING else from me.
    Beautifully done. The.

    Reply
    • Sober Tony says

      May 2, 2017 at 2:08 pm

      It’s a terrible feeling – dehumanizing really – when someone tries to make you powerless.

      We only have two options: accept the abuse or fight back against addiciton

      Reply

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