You don’t have to get sober alone! We are here to share your experience and offer encouragement – one day at a time.
Sober Tony, Editor and Founder
Tony is the founder and editor of Daily Recovery Club. He writes from his personal experience of alcohol addiction and recovery.
He is a widely respected authority (in his own mind) and likes to be called Dr. Tony Relapse
This blog is not professional or medical advice, rather a support community for others suffering from alcoholism.
Everyone here is an expert on failure, starting over, and trying to laugh at the absurdity of it all.
Contact Information:
- via email — Hello@dailyRecovery.club
- on Twitter @SoberTony
Sarah Fader, writer
Sarah Fader is the CEO and Founder of Stigma Fighters, a non-profit organization that encourages individuals with mental illness to share their personal stories.
She has been featured in The Washington Post, The Atlantic, Quartz, Psychology Today, The Huffington Post, HuffPost Live, and Good Day New York. Browse her books on Amazon.com
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This website is for information and educational purposes, it does not offer specific medical advice and does not replace the help of a trained healthcare provided.
Meet Sober Tony – The Longer Version
This blog started as my recovery story and an exercise in honesty. Like many others, my path back to sanity has been messy.
I’m putting myself out there for one simple reason – I want to help you fight back against your addiction.
Each day I’m gaining a little courage and discovering what it means to get sober. You can read my Sobriety Journal posts starting at Day #1
We are stronger together
You don’t have to do this thing alone. I’m in the fight of my life here. Addiction wants me to die, but I’m not going to lose this time.
I’m dreaming that this blog could become a safe place for others too. It’s where we can talk about addiction, sobriety, recovery, and fight this demon of alcohol. I’m hopeful my stories will help someone else out there too.
It all starts when you leave a comment on any post.
I’ve been featured on several other websites.
- In Recovery Magazine published my story The Journey From Fun to Abuse
- For STIGMA FIGHTERS, I wrote how shame over my mental illness was part of my downward spiral.
You’re an amazing soul, Tony. I have faith in you.
Thank you. I’m not sure I believe that all the time, but I have hope that something good will come from this mess I’ve made.
Wow very happy for you Tony…im a functional alcoholic since 20, now 32 and it was also my fun secret but it has damaged the relationships with my family although they are amazing and have continually forgiven me, my friendships, relationships and now work. Looking I managed dry January and felt so good but back to normal now. Looking for a supportive community to confide in. Love the idea of a blog like you to express my journey to x
Go for it. I started before I was ready and it became a big reason to keep fighting to stay sober.
If you don’t want to hassle withthe setup i can add you to this blog. Nothing fancy, more like a fight club basement for recovery.
Great job Tony!!! So worth it! One day at a time and you will piece together a quilt if life beyond belief.
Mark Rickert (Soaring In Sobriety Podcast)
Tony,
Thank you for sharing your story. I am 21 days sober today and I’m felling bored and full of anxiety. I am, however, grateful for being alive and substance-free. Alcohol was a symptom of my real issue “lack of power”. When I was I took that first drink nearly 22 years ago, 15 years of fear vanished in an instant; it wasn’t until I was 37 years old when I realized that drinking didn’t work anymore; it was having the reverse effect on me. God bless you and thank you again.
Capt. Callaway
I’m enjoying reading your blogs. This must not be easy for you but I’m sure it’s therapeutic and necessary. You have much teach others. Keep up the great work.
Today is the 1st day of my new sobriety. I made the decision to quit drinking because my 18 year old son told my husband that his mother was an alcoholic and he was worried about how my drinking was affecting his 14 yr old sister. 10 years ago I quit drinking when my little girl was diagnosed with diabetes, and I stayed sober for 5 yrs. My kids were too young before that to remember all the drinking I had done when I was a young mother. My worst fear has come true. They are old enough now to remember all the dinners I was too drunk to make, all the errands I was too drunk to run, and all the nights I spent passed out on the couch. I only hope they can forgive me, and that I can learn to forgive myself. I am terrified about what this journey will have in store for me, but at the same time overjoyed to finally get real with myself and start LIVING life again instead of drinking at it! This post gives me hope, and a safe place to turn to for support. Thank you for sharing your story Tony. Best of luck to you. Best of luck to all of us.
Congratulations! You won’t regret your decision to stop drinking.
Hello Tony and all of us seeking sobriety. I finally said I have had enough wine on 7/17/2017. I entered outpatient treatment the next day, and continue still in this sobriety support program. I have 102 days sober today. I feel wonderful and very grateful for my life and all of the wonderful people I have met on this journey to wholeness. ❤️
Hi. My name is Susie. I have been struggling with alcohol addiction for about 9 years now. It seems like anything triggers me but usually depressive situations. I lost custody of my children because of drunk driving but luckily my husband still has me in their lives. I can’t stay sober for at least a year. I am unable to attend meetings because of baby sitting my kids. I am so glad to have found this. My last relapse just ended. I have been sober for 3 days but no by choice. My husband took time off to stay home
I have been sober 11 days today, it came after many years of drinking. I am a functional alcoholic, hold down a 40 hour a week job, baseball games, cook dinner, etc… but also drink 1.5 liters of wine per night. It took a huge family argument and my son calling me an alcoholic to realize I have a serious problem (not to mention the high liver function tests that I hoped would go away) it has been hard and I hope I do not relapse.
Glad to hear from you. Every day counts and you’re making big progress.
Hi Tony,
10 weeks in & my sponsor sent me your link. What a ride we’re on. Would appreciate the support & giving it away.
Thanks,
Christina
I’m new to this, 43, and I guess before 5 years ago enjoyed 4 beers on a Friday and maybe Saturday, but then I decided to confront my controlling (now ex) husband, when he didn’t want to change I called time on our marriage, about 6 months later that’s when it began, we share 3 children, at the time 2, 5 and 7. He stepped up his narcissistic behaviour on me. Still under same roof but me in youngest bedroom, then Covid hit, divorce process was slow, he was more than difficult. I would sit I garden and drink in evenings, eventually got full divorce after court, 2 years later and moved into new house, a new start, new beginnings, shared custody (couldn’t face court again and damaging kids), also by this time me and ex we on good terms and co parenting nicely still are. I would say even friends. But moving into new house and adjusting not having kids every day when I was there only parent even when married, was deafening, and I found on the days I didn’t have the kids, I would sit on sofa after work and drink, this became a habit, then it moved to when I did have the kids, I have never been violent or awful when drunk, or falling over etc. would still wake up and do normal day to day stuff I guess you call it functional ? But I hate myself for it and hate seeing my once bright eyes now yellow or bloodshot or just look plain tired. I have gained weight about 10kg, not able to exercise like I used to due to spine issues/surgery. So I hate that. I miss my kids terribly when they are not with me. No one has any idea I struggle with this, I hide it well. I hate it. Then hate myself. My dad is an alcoholic and I swore I would never be him, he was awful. I have tried several times, the lies drink tell you brought me back then I would drink more, sometimes 5/7 days. I am now currently 3 days sober, taking supplements as well to ease symptoms, but I feel in myself I can do this, I know I can, I just need to ignore the lies and focus on all the positive in my life. My kids are brilliant they have adjusted well to the new normal of mum and dad not being together, they have forgotten how bad dad used to be to mum, he has completely changed and like I said friends now, if I hadn’t of ended marriage he would of continued being the way he was and wouldn’t be the dad he is now, which is all I wanted. I went from being a single mum in a marriage to an actual single parent co parenting. Not sure point of my reply only to share with others I guess and fortify my resolve to continue this. I feel better already, albeit bad dreams/sleep paralysis. Shakes have gone, eyes are clearer, feeling calmer.